Womanist is to feminist as purple is to lavender. ~ Alice Walker
This year, as the world celebrates women’s lives and focuses on our unique contributions, the theme is one of balance. #BalanceforBetter is a meaningful hashtag, at least to me.
Balance is something I find challenging to achieve, and I think many mums at some point in their lives will have experienced overwhelm, feeling out of control, and a lack of time and energy for themselves. That modern day bitter pill of work-life balance.
It’s not just about the balance of opportunity and pay with our male colleagues in the workplace, but also about how to feel unconditional self-love (warts and all), and achieve a state of inner peace, lead fulfilling lives, able to express ourselves fully and be immune to the opinions and judgments of others. The pressure comes when we struggle to transcended either our own or society’s unrealistic expectations. We need to be kind to ourselves.
My greatest wish for my daughters is that they are happy, confident, creative and courageous, able to seize every opportunity to reach their full potential.
It’s never going to be easy breaking out of deeply entrenched social conditioning; the unrealistic images and portrayals of women in the media, that imply we should look and act a certain way, should always wear makeup, have a perfect home (children always scupper that one), while managing a career and family like the most glamorous of Stepford Wives!!
I was pleased to see that Virgin Atlantic recently announced that they no longer require their female cabin crew to wear makeup or skirts. I applaud that move!
Or are many of these expectations and idealised personas something we as women often place on ourselves?
Like flowers, womankind populates the earth with a myriad of interesting and beautiful creations, each with her own unique characteristics; beautiful shapes, shades and hues, and certain conditions provide the best environment in order to blossom!
Having a strong Artemis Goddess archetype (as well as Demeter, Aphrodite and Athena), I am always keen to support and help my sisters on their path to empowerment. I plan to write about the God and Goddess archetypes from ancient Greek mythology at some point, they are absolutely fascinating.
In so many parts of the world women do not enjoy the freedoms and rights that their sisters in the West do. I admire their courage to risk life and limb and imprisonment in such brutal, corrupt and repressive regimes, so they can inspire a brighter future for themselves and all women in their war-torn, troubled regions. My heart goes out to them.
Even with softer flesh, womankind is not the weaker sex,
So long abused, raped and repressed by hatred and arrogance,
But the tide of feminism is turning – no longer are we objects
Or possessions to be owned; our gender an excuse for violence,
Mistreated for millennia, our meagre rights, hard fought and won,
We are capable, kind, resilient, intelligent, loving and brave,
Not deserving of being trampled on – we are done
Holding back, not exploring limits; it’s freedom we crave,
Our collective pain and desperation is fuelling change,
Equality and respect is a human right, not a privilege!
Now is the time for patriarchy to respond, rearrange
Their views – see us not as an idealised ‘image’,
Invite mankind to be part of the solution, not the problem,
Love us for who we are; sentient beings that can carry life,
Abolish any sense of entitlement to a perceived collective harem!
Every woman: be she a mother, daughter, sister, friend or wife,
Unshackled, to claim her power and divine feminine birth right,
She deserves to be valued for all her roles and attributes,
Free from fear and brutality, not having to constantly fight
To live on her own terms; parity – not discrimination – in her pursuits,
Men and women in mutual collaboration as normality?
Yin and Yang united: the basis of enlightened humanity.
By Virginia Burges
I’m aware that I have shared James Brown’s immortal song, It’s a Man’s World before, but this impromptu rendition by Jennifer Hudson and Sir Tom Jones on The Voice really moved me.
Happy International Women’s Day!
I’ll leave you with some great #IWD2019 tweets: