Ode to Womankind on International Women’s Day #IWD2019

Womanist is to feminist as purple is to lavender. ~ Alice Walker

This year, as the world celebrates women’s lives and focuses on our unique contributions, the theme is one of balance. #BalanceforBetter is a meaningful hashtag, at least to me.

Balance is something I find challenging to achieve, and I think many mums at some point in their lives will have experienced overwhelm, feeling out of control, and a lack of time and energy for themselves. That modern day bitter pill of work-life balance.

It’s not just about the balance of opportunity and pay with our male colleagues in the workplace, but also about how to feel unconditional self-love (warts and all), and achieve a state of inner peace, lead fulfilling lives, able to express ourselves fully and be immune to the opinions and judgments of others.  The pressure comes when we struggle to transcended either our own or society’s unrealistic expectations. We need to be kind to ourselves.

My greatest wish for my daughters is that they are happy, confident, creative and courageous, able to seize every opportunity to reach their full potential.

It’s never going to be easy breaking out of deeply entrenched social conditioning; the unrealistic images and portrayals of women in the media, that imply we should look and act a certain way, should always wear makeup, have a perfect home (children always scupper that one), while managing a career and family like the most glamorous of Stepford Wives!!

I was pleased to see that Virgin Atlantic recently announced that they no longer require their female cabin crew to wear makeup or skirts. I applaud that move!

Or are many of these expectations and idealised personas something we as women often place on ourselves?

Like flowers, womankind populates the earth with a myriad of interesting and beautiful creations, each with her own unique characteristics; beautiful shapes, shades and hues, and certain conditions provide the best environment in order to blossom!

Having a strong Artemis Goddess archetype (as well as Demeter, Aphrodite and Athena), I am always keen to support and help my sisters on their path to empowerment. I plan to write about the God and Goddess archetypes from ancient Greek mythology at some point, they are absolutely fascinating.

The Return of Persephone (to Demeter) by Frederic Leighton c.1891 (oil on canvas) 203 x 152 cm

The Homeric Hymn to Demeter

In so many parts of the world women do not enjoy the freedoms and rights that their sisters in the West do. I admire their courage to risk life and limb and imprisonment in such brutal, corrupt and repressive regimes, so they can inspire a brighter future for themselves and all women in their war-torn, troubled regions. My heart goes out to them.


Even with softer flesh, womankind is not the weaker sex,

So long abused, raped and repressed by hatred and arrogance,

But the tide of feminism is turning – no longer are we objects

Or possessions to be owned; our gender an excuse for violence,

Mistreated for millennia, our meagre rights, hard fought and won,

We are capable, kind, resilient, intelligent, loving and brave,

Not deserving of being trampled on – we are done

Holding back, not exploring limits; it’s freedom we crave,

Our collective pain and desperation is fuelling change,

Equality and respect is a human right, not a privilege!

Now is the time for patriarchy to respond, rearrange

Their views – see us not as an idealised ‘image’,

Invite mankind to be part of the solution, not the problem,

Love us for who we are; sentient beings that can carry life,

Abolish any sense of entitlement to a perceived collective harem!

Every woman: be she a mother, daughter, sister, friend or wife,

Unshackled, to claim her power and divine feminine birth right,

She deserves to be valued for all her roles and attributes,

Free from fear and brutality, not having to constantly fight

To live on her own terms; parity – not discrimination – in her pursuits,

Men and women in mutual collaboration as normality?

Yin and Yang united: the basis of enlightened humanity.

By Virginia Burges

Yin and Yang

I’m aware that I have shared James Brown’s immortal song, It’s a Man’s World before, but this impromptu rendition by Jennifer Hudson and Sir Tom Jones on The Voice really moved me.

Happy International Women’s Day!

I’ll leave you with some great #IWD2019 tweets:


Celebrating Unique Mothers and Women on International Women’s Day #IWD2016

“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” ~ Rajneesh

In celebration of Mother’s Day in the UK this past Sunday, and International Women’s Day today, I would like to share a few heartfelt verses. I have always maintained that mothers are the ultimate executives. After all, they are not just raising profits; they are raising humanity…

Motherhood - life quote

The bottom line is not money, it’s love. Love makes the world go round. People perform best when they are happy and aligned with their purpose. The unconditional love that mothers give to their children is essential to foster self-esteem, confidence, courage, kindness and healthy development. Those early years, all the way through to adulthood cannot be underestimated.

Yet so often in the corporate world mothers are discriminated against, paid less and struggle to work rigid hours that make the challenging job of raising children even harder than it already is.  Let’s not forget, before the working day starts we’ve already done what feels like a day’s work, and when the working day is over mothers are on over-time until their offspring are tucked up safely in bed. Even then we have to be on call 24/7.


Just ask one of America’s most powerful and influential women, Anne-Marie Slaughter, and she will attest to having experienced exactly the same situation that most women, and especially working mother’s face in today’s world. Why Women Still Can’t Have It All is a compelling read.

I admire and respect the men who notice, value and share our lives in all their inspiration, talent and daily drudgery.

This is such a brilliant and uplifting advert! #ShareTheLoad

#PleadgeforParity #IWD2016 International Women’s Day 2016

Let’s celebrate our mothers and all women!

Mother and Child by Frederic Leighton

Mother and Child by Frederic Leighton

Dear Mum

You held my hand through thick and thin,

You shared and celebrated my triumphs,

You encouraged me after each disaster,

You helped me when needed, to bear my pain,

You wiped away my tears…

You gave me your precious love and your time,

You sacrificed your sleep, and at times, your sanity!

You learnt fast and on the job, without vanity,

You saw no immediate return on your investment.

You did your best, even under trying circumstances,

You instilled manners, morals, and values to be proud of,

You never gave up on me.

You kept me safe; yet gave me wings…

You nurtured and nourished me no matter what,

You took me places, cheered me on,

You cooked me delicious, nutritious meals,

You washed and ironed my clothes,

You never asked for anything in return,

You taught me how to learn,

You always gave me a smile, a kiss and a hug,

You nursed me when I was poorly,

You were quite handy with a bandage and plaster!

You pushed me to work harder, achieve more,

Your wisdom and advice I ignored too often,

You and I are different; but I couldn’t be who I am without you.

You and I share an unspoken, unbreakable bond,

You remember when it was sometimes stretched…

You and I know it’s forever flexible and strong,

Your example is a beacon for me to follow,

You guide me in my own journey as a mother,

You want the best for me; my hopes and dreams are yours…

With all my love, and eternal gratitude,

Long may you flourish and prosper!

Motherhood is a tough but rewarding calling and shouldn’t be underestimated or undervalued.

Mother and Child by mary Cassatt c. 1880

Mother and Child by mary Cassatt c. 1880

If the basic human need to be loved and supported isn’t met, the chances of dysfunctional behaviour in the individual become vastly increased, alongside the implications for society as a whole.

David R. Hawkins on the role of mothers:

“Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind.” ~ Howard W. Hunter