Ultimate Life Lessons – An Amazing Day on the Charisma Connection

“Charisma is an authentic power that captivates the hearts and minds others.” ~ Nikki Owen

I’ve been through many self-development and training workshops over the course of my career. All of them have been valuable in their own right, but some make such a profound impact that the experience as well as ‘aha’ moments can continue to be applied to your life long after the initial learning has been assimilated. The Charisma Connection was one such day.

Creator of the Charisma Connection: Nikki Owen

Sylvia Baldock

Sylvia Baldock

I had not come across the work of Nikki Owen before I attended this workshop, but was persuaded by a dynamic business woman, Sylvia Baldock, the Regional Director of my local Athena networking group, who I know and trust; that it would be a worthwhile investment. I’m glad I listened to her!

Sylvia met Nikki through her membership of the Professional Speaking Association (PSA) and became fascinated by her work on charisma as it tied in closely with her own expertise on Talent Dynamics and Flow.

Charisma - Sylvia logoTo cut a long story short, Nikki trained Sylvia so that she could be accredited to deliver her pioneering work.

Thirty years of research have been distilled into a life changing day of learning, laughter and limitless possibilities.

As part of the study materials for The Charisma Connection we each received a signed copy of Nikki’s ground-breaking book: Charismatic to the Core, our workbooks and access to her amazing Hypno Meditations, our online charisma profile to identify our charismatic potential as well as a follow up call with our trainer Sylvia.

Nikki’s story is incredibly moving and inspirational. You can read about her achievements, get your own charisma profile and more, on her website.

Charisma - Charismatic to the Core

I had a few doubts in my mind before I arrived at the venue, the Crowne Plaza hotel in Marlow. Could I really afford to take a whole day out of the office that wasn’t geared to my business? I was thinking of all the writing I should be doing and the meetings I wanted to set up.

All the machinations in my mind were dispelled virtually the instant Sylvia greeted me. I knew it was going to be a worthwhile day and a much needed investment in myself. Sylvia’s positive energy radiated and connected with mine before she even said a word.

Our seats were laid out in a semi-circle with all our materials in a bright and airy room scented with beneficial aromatherapy oils, and Sylvia’s warm introduction set the tone perfectly. There were eight of us in the group which meant that we could get the most out of our individual and team exercises.

“When you are being true to who you really are inside, you shine in your own unique way.” ~ Nikki Owen

Format

Sylvia gave us a brief overview of the day and began by telling her story. It was an emotional and uplifting start which bonded us beautifully.

We then began our first exercise, which was discussing the charismatic advantage in the areas of success, engagement, resilience, talent and health.

We split into two groups and did a wonderful exercise that highlights the processes going on unconsciously in our heads and how that translates to our emotions and subsequent actions. We had to put the right terms onto a magnetic board to show what happens when we are subjected to information and sensory input. It was harder than it looks! However, with a bit of guidance from Sylvia we got there eventually.

Charisma model

According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, professor at the Drucker School of Management in California, every moment our unconscious mind absorbs over two million bits of information through our senses. Professor George Miller, Harvard Business School states that consciously we typically only process around seven chunks of this stream of information.

Who are you?

In order to create the right internal conditions for our charisma to develop Sylvia grouped us into pairs to ascertain our authenticity and purpose, which is vital to help our charisma grow and flourish.

For the first part of the exercise we sat comfortably facing our partners. Person A wore a blindfold to promote deeper introspection and person B asked “Who are you?” every 15 seconds, while remaining present and focused on their partner. As person A responded, person B made a note of their answers. We did this for five minutes and then switched roles.

Having the question “Who are you?” repeated continuously for this period of time enabled us to reach beyond our early superficial responses and reach deep into our subconscious minds to access our truth.

Charisma - youth

For the second part of the exercise we followed exactly the same format, except Person A asked person B “What do you want?”

This was an incredibly powerful exercise, and I’ve been looking through some of answers my partner Gerry wrote down.

Just before lunch Sylvia treated us to one of Nikki’s relaxing Hypno Meditations. Her soft voice spoke to us, specifically recorded with two to three dialogues speaking at the same time to have maximum impact on the brain, accompanied by binaural beats and music. Lunch was a delicious, healthy buffet, and we even managed to sit out on the balcony before the rain descended.

Survival or Growth?

The afternoon session was equally eye-opening. We began by studying the attributes of someone in either a survival or growth mindset. Again, Sylvia split us into two groups, each taking a mindset. We shared our findings and reflected on the specific behaviours and physical symptoms.

Afterwards we collectively went through the Survival/Growth models and Sylvia explained that when a person is in survival mode and typically stressed, their cells literally shut down, triggered by the release of cortisol and adrenaline. In order to protect themselves cells become closed silos by sealing themselves and moving into a protective operating mechanism. This in turn prevents other growth hormones from entering.

When we are living and working in a safe and supportive environment we release serotonin and oxytocin which increase an individual’s openness towards social belonging. This chemical reaction opens the cells so they can absorb nutrients for growth.

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It’s obvious to see why some businesses and organisations go from strength to strength and others fail. If individuals are placed in an environment where they feel stressed, that encourages selfish, closed thinking – a silo mentality. Nikki points out that a safe and supportive environment will actively encourage open, selfless thinking – a collaborative and caring culture. And the key to silos lies in our cellular biology!

We talked about charismatic leaders and the importance of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs in attaining a growth mindset, both individually and as part of an organisation.

How to Develop Charisma

Sylvia showed us the five pillars of charisma and we covered each one in detail. These pillars were shown on a five point star. We could see how a downward spiral in the areas of balanced energy, driving force, compelling vision, high self-esteem and sensory awareness would create a silo, whereas strengthening these attributes develops charisma and improves your whole life.

“The symbol of star quality is based on the beliefs, values and experience of your past programming. The construction and constituents of each pillar is expressed through a variety of unconscious behaviours that in a work context influences a leader’s impact either positively or negatively.” ~ Nikki Owen

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Charisma Constellation

We did an interesting exercise (again in pairs) to establish our charisma constellation. This powerful process meant we could engage with the depth, wisdom and awareness of our unconscious minds to gain intuitive insights about our charisma.

It involved using colours for each pillar, some of which are representative of the Chakra System.

We placed the colour squares for each pillar onto the floor in the positions and colours that felt right to us. My balanced energy point was yellow, at the start, close to my driving force which I chose orange, close to self-esteem which was green, alongside my purple sensory awareness looking towards my vision for which I chose blue.

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As we stepped on each square we had to notice how that colour made us feel in relation to each point on the star. We were allowed to rearrange the footprints until we established what felt in alignment with each person.

The Charisma Model

Thoughts Become Things

We saw the pictures of Dr. Masaru Emoto’s extensive experiments on the molecules of water crystals in samples that had been split into separate containers and labelled with worlds such as love and peace and hate and war.  The resulting images he later studied under a microscope revealed that thoughts and intentions profoundly affected the matter they were directed at.

Nikki did her own experiment in 2009, which she termed ‘The Big Apple’. It involved cutting an apple into two halves, again directing positive, loving thoughts to one half, and negative, thoughts, beliefs and emotions towards the other half. The results were astounding!

These results highlight the power of focused intent. It really shows how a leader can impact on the culture, performance and results of an organisation, or indeed a country.  Research by Goleman, Boyatzis and McKee (Primal Leadership) cite that the leader’s mood is not only contagious but it affects the bottom line.

Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

The final exercise of the day was invaluable. Sylvia discussed with us the impact that early programming in childhood can have as we grow up and thus implant self-limiting beliefs. I am always in awe of my children’s lack of guile, and of the generally open, honest and direct way they express themselves. They haven’t yet managed to sabotage their beliefs.

We paired up again with our course partner and chose a limiting belief that we wanted to exterminate. One person then asked the other various questions about their limiting belief, and in part two they asked more but different types of questions.

I had an amazing ‘aha’ insight that my empowerment doesn’t depend on anyone else. This was such a powerful exercise.

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As I said to Sylvia, it’s a great feeling to challenge and destroy those beliefs that don’t serve our purpose, passion and potential. It’s liberating to cut loose the heavy ball and chain of the thoughts that hold us back.

I saw Gerry last week at our Athena meeting and she is as keen as I am for us to get together every month or so to continue our progress.

The day was rounded off with a different Hypno Meditation and Sylvia told us a very moving story. We each drew on a plate our thoughts of the day and explained a little about how we had arrived at our creations.

Insights

Lots of things ‘stuck’ for me on this day. Some of the teaching I had been exposed to before to some lesser degree, but it was taught in such a brilliant way that it affected me profoundly. The following days saw some incredible coincidences. I bumped into people I had been thinking about that I hadn’t seen for a year or more. Everything seemed to flow. I’m sure that’s because I was in a creative, growth place!

Big thanks and appreciation go to Nikki Owen for producing this material and to Sylvia Baldock for facilitating our learning in such a charismatic way. She certainly practiced what she preached!

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I will continue on my charismatic journey. I have been starting and ending my day with the Hypno Meditations and working through the material again in my own time. I will continue to peel back the layers to reveal my authentic self. I have started to apply what I’ve learnt so that I can be a better parent and become a person who can inspire others.

If this post has inspired you, please do buy a copy of Nikki’s book, visit her website and that of our trainer Sylvia Baldock. You won’t be disappointed.

“Charisma is your birth right, it is a natural state that is within all of us, including you, just waiting to be awakened.” ~ Nikki Owen

#SundayBlogShare – A British Summer 🌳🌺💨☔🌞

After waking up with a bit of a hangover I felt the urge to write about the weather… How very British! I was also pondering on how the collective unconscious affects our perception of nature. I hope you enjoy it, and perhaps even relate to it on some level.

As I love the work of Joseph Mallord William Turner, Britain’s most prolific and famous landscape painter, I have used his art to help illustrate my prose.

Happy Sunday!

A British Summer

Heavy grey clouds claim the sky, suffocating hope,

Reflecting the changing moods of the nation,

Temperatures fluctuate; oppressive then cool,

Winnie-the-Pooh’s blustery day is upon us…

Raby Castle, the seat of the Earl of Darlington, by JMW Turner

Raby Castle, the seat of the Earl of Darlington, by JMW Turner

Towering trees adorned with lush, verdant leaves,

Shimmer, bend and wave in nature’s breathy puff,

Wild flowers populate meadows and hedgerows,

Colourful petals spread succour for broken hearts

Thomson's Aeolian Harp by JMW Turner c. 1809

Thomson’s Aeolian Harp by JMW Turner c. 1809

Rays of sun breakthrough, beaming sporadic warmth,

Threat of violent showers always present, looming,

A green and pleasant land supports uncertain steps,

Whether bold or timid; blades of grass in their billions.

Abergavenny Bridge Monmouthshire by JMW Turner

Abergavenny Bridge Monmouthshire by JMW Turner

Pimms and tennis distract weary, outraged citizens,

Quintessential Hundred Acre Wood of our nation,

Still holds surprises. The worker bees hide not;

Streams babble and burst lowly banks.

Arundel Castle on the River Arun, with a Rainbow c. 1824-5 Joseph Mallord William Turner 1775-1851 Accepted by the nation as part of the Turner Bequest 1856

Arundel Castle on the River Arun, with a Rainbow c. 1824-5 Joseph Mallord William Turner

Life abounds in forests, fields and flowers,

Towns and cities go about their daily grind,

Forgotten worms thrive in velvety brown sludge,

Birds soar above gardens, manicured or wild.

Oxford High Street by JMW Turner

Oxford High Street by JMW Turner

In times of trouble the land is earthy and stable,

The cycle of death and rebirth ceaseless, reliable.

Gain strength from longer, lighter days, be

Fortified by the season of playfulness and revelry.

Pope's Villa at Twickenham by JMW Turner

Pope’s Villa at Twickenham by JMW Turner

History lives on in ancient stone walls,

Land of democracy and freedom decays,

Only to grow back around human drama,

Scenery of ups and downs: metamorphosis.

Stonehenge by JMW Turner c. 1827

Stonehenge by JMW Turner c. 1827

Lakes and mountains, coasts and cliffs,

Magnificent island refuge to everyday strife,

Spires look upwards over quaint village greens,

Season of vitality to revive cynical souls.

Scottish landscape by JMW Turner

Scottish landscape by JMW Turner

English rose, soft symbol of beauty and summer,

She attracts us with her sweet, heady scent,

Draws blood with her protective, thorny fingers,

But we love her essence and fullness of life.

The Old Library: A Vase of Lilies, Dahlias and Other Flowers 1827 Joseph Mallord William Turner 1775-1851 Accepted by the nation as part of the Turner Bequest 1856

The Old Library: A Vase of Lilies, Dahlias and Other Flowers 1827 Joseph Mallord William Turner

Is this the summer of our discontent?

Rough winds do shake wounded spirits,

Sprites commit their mischief then sneakily retreat,

But Bacchus’s bounty exists for all who seek it…

By Virginia Burges

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Petworth House and Park by JMW Turner

The Magic of Embracing Femininity in a Man’s World

“This has always been a man’s world, and none of the reasons that have been offered in explanation have seemed adequate.” ~ Simone de Beauvoir

One of my favourite songs is It’s a Man’s World by James Brown. I loved his voice, vibe and vitality. The melody is tuneful and catchy, almost addictive; but the lyrics are pure genius. I’m sure you know the song well, but why not have another listen? I love this duet version with opera supremo Luciano Pavarotti:

By virtue of their experience most women will agree it’s still a man’s world. The irony is that it can only ultimately be propagated and populated by women. If we weren’t willing to, or couldn’t bear children it would threaten the survival of our species, (cue the brilliant novel by P.D. James, The Children of Men).

A mother is the most vital person in a baby’s early life, the source of food, love, security, comfort and care. She is indispensable. Her femininity is integral to life. But before she’s a mother she’s a woman.

The divine feminine

Women have struggled against repression from the dawn of time to the present day, (with exceptions of course), having been subjected to rules and conditions that were imposed by religion and men who felt threatened by feminine power.

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Our human rights have been trampled over in the most appalling ways. In many parts of the world women continue to be treated like second class citizens, deprived of education, used as sex slaves, domestic slaves; not permitted to show their faces and made to walk behind a man.

In Victorian Britain women were not allowed to vote, spawning the rise of the Suffragette Movement, spearheaded by heroines such as Emily Pankhurst. She was no less feminine for her bravery, sacrifice and cause.

Women and girls have been given away in marriage by their parents without a say in a commitment that will affect the rest of their lives and future happiness. Even worse, some have been murdered for daring to love the man they want instead of a man that has been ‘chosen’ for them.

Femininity is about respect for life in all its forms.  It is not about manipulation and control.

Unlike the cruel, ego led males that have trafficked young, vulnerable women and condemned them to a life of prostitution so that their pimps can rob them of all dignity and freedom and live off of their subjugation. It’s sickening. If women rise and live in their power these types of situations will become less prevalent.

I so admire the work of Angelina Jolie with the United Nations in standing up for Women’s rights. She has achieved her success by embracing her own feminine power.

In many parts of the world girls are denied an education in an attempt to keep feminine power from manifesting. That is why the Nobel Peace Prize Laureate Malala Yousafzai is such an important role model for young girls across the globe. Her courage, intelligence, determination and humanity have thwarted hatred, ignorance and fear.

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An educated woman is a force for good in the world.

In the West, where women mostly have the luxury of equal rights (and in some cases equal pay), we still fight against injustice, prejudice and sexism in corporate life as well as mainstream media. The plethora of sexualised images of women on posters, magazines, TV and films contribute subliminally to the feeling of inadequacy that many of us (who weren’t blessed with supermodel looks) feel about our bodies. In my case after having children.

We end up comparing our imperfections against the perfect ‘retouched’ glossy photos where hair and makeup have been professionally applied so it’s never a fair contest. It should never be a contest, but it’s hard not to feel inferior when we are constantly bombarded with images of nubile goddesses in their prime versus our post motherhood forms.

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Yours truly on holiday in Turkey in 1989. It reminds me of my ‘free spirit’.

Sometimes it’s fun to be reminded of our prime! We remember that youthful part of us is still part and parcel of our more mature selves.

The Siren

A siren has an air of mystery; she is alluring and confident in her own skin. It’s not about sexual domination, but about being in tune with her abundant sexual energy. Perhaps, mistakenly, we think that men will only notice us if we flash the flesh, wear red lipstick, walk in high heels and brandish our ‘assets’ in plunging necklines. I’ve done it occasionally myself. But I firmly believe there’s more to femininity than appearance.

Femininity - Kate Winslet

By all means we should make the best of ourselves. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that if makes you feel good and it’s done with self respect. True sexiness comes from embracing our innate femininity and personal power. It’s feeling content with who we are, happy in our own skin (even if it does bear the stretch marks of motherhood).

It’s about making the best of our appearance for our own self-esteem and not always pandering to the preferences of men. It’s about embracing our ‘inner goddess’ by knowing that we are beautiful on the inside and on the outside.

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Understanding our strengths and representing our unique virtues and values in the world is the ultimate expression of our divine femininity.

femininity

noun: the quality of being female; womanliness.

“she celebrates her femininity by wearing make-up and high heels”

synonyms: womanliness, feminineness, womanhood, womanly qualities, feminine qualities

“she had always delighted in her femininity”

You are smart, sexy, intelligent, kind, empathetic, intuitive, tender and strong just as you are. Women can thrive in a man’s world by being true to who we are. A woman who loves and respects herself first and foremost will be a valuable partner in any relationship. She’s not clingy and insecure, but rather in touch with her own emotions and therefore more likely to be in tune with those of her partner.

Dancing and movement is a wonderful, grounded way to express and manifest feminine energy. Ilaria Masini illustrates my point perfectly with her contemporary ballet performance to Händel’s Sarabande:

Battle of the sexes

Any kind of repression and curbing of freedoms will elicit a backlash, otherwise there would have been no need for the feminist movement. It’s understandable that women have developed more traditionally ‘masculine’ qualities in order to tough it out in a man’s world or a challenging environment. But we must return to our true nature.

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I view it as not being a question of competition but of collaboration. A woman is meant to complete a man, not finish him off! There’s such beauty and symmetry in Yin and Yang.

We’ve all seen and met a woman in business who dresses in trouser suits and acts like a hard bitch or a ‘femme fatale’ because she thinks she has to emulate a man to succeed. She betrays her feminine side in order to be accepted as one of the lads.  Deep down they will not respect her for it, they will feel threatened.

Women don’t need acceptance from anyone but themselves.

The interactions between men and women are most harmonious when both have an equal balance of their ‘anima’ (feminine principle) and ‘animus’ (masculine principle). I’ll be covering more of Jung’s work on this fascinating subject in a later post.

Feminine power

Embracing our femininity is entwined with accepting and asserting our personal power and realising our God-given talents. We can achieve anything we set our minds to.

“On the day when it will be possible for woman to love not in her weakness but in her strength, not to escape herself but to find herself, not to abase herself but to assert herself–on that day love will become for her, as for man, a source of life and not of mortal danger.” ~ Simone de Beauvoir

The qualities of femininity as I see it means expressing ourselves in whatever mode we choose. We can be nurturers, achievers, thinkers, lovers or whatever we desire. It will change depending on what stage of life we’re at. Many of us with children are multi-tasking for our lives.

Femininity - Strong Albert Einstein

There have been a few times when I’ve had to unleash Kali in order to survive. But I locked her away again after she had accomplished her purpose. Otherwise I would have been eaten up by anger, bitterness and revenge. Nowadays I like to call on Isis, Venus, Aphrodite and Athena, depending on the circumstances!

Just be…

Be a communicator, be savvy, be strong, be vulnerable, be a damsel in distress if it serves you. Be sexy, be passionate, be sensual, be exhilarated, be interested, be inspired, be lazy, be active, be funny, be playful, be sad, be brave, be scared, be emotional, be detached, be connected, be selfish, be kind, be giving and loving, be protective, be daring, be sporty, be adventurous! Don’t become stuck. Follow your heart! Your dreams matter.

Embrace the whole darn lot! It’s time we claimed an equal share in the sense of entitlement that men often display.

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Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of times when a feisty female, (me included) wants to be held, loved and protected, wrapped in a man’s strong arms; cherished and desired. Sexual union can be just as important to women as it is to men. There are moments when women may equally want to take the lead and initiate all sorts of activities, including lovemaking.

“No-one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility.” ~ Simone de Beauvoir

By being authentically feminine we give men permission to be manly and masculine, but not in a stereotypical way. However, what you do behind closed doors is your business… I don’t know why, but a picture of Tarzan and Jane popped into my mind just then…

I love this candid talk about feminine energy and power by Candice Oneida:

To truly be a woman in a man’s world is both liberating and exciting.  When we accept our ‘inner heroine’ we can admire and value the ‘inner hero’ of men. Embracing our femininity doesn’t make us weak, it makes us powerful.

Until the next time, yours in feminine power…Ginny

Why I Voted to Remain in the European Union #EURef

“No one pretends that democracy is perfect or all-wise. Indeed, it has been said that democracy is the worst form of government except all those other forms that have been tried from time to time.” ~ Sir Winston Churchill.

Like the rest of the UK, Europe and the world, I woke up to the shattering news that our nation has voted to leave the EU.

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The #Brexit campaigners and supporters are euphoric, but I feel devastated. I have never known anything different than Britain being a member of the EU, and now the political status quo has been shaken to its core by this seismic EU Referendum.

With an overwhelming majority of 1.2 million votes the ‘Leave’ campaign has yanked our nation out of the EU and onto a new independent course.  Many didn’t like the direction the more ‘federal’ EU was taking. A ‘United States of Europe’ was one anathema too far.

I love Europe. I love Europeans and European culture, but I must admit I have no affection for the bureaucracy of Brussels. For me, that was the main voting issue, one of sovereignty. But after much reasoned thought I weighed that our contributions to our stability, economic prosperity and the greater good of Europe and our position on the world stage ultimately were of greater importance.

The anti-migrant sentiment and the feverish emotions that have been stirred up by this referendum have been shocking. Not least it has had a part to play in the tragic murder of mother, human rights campaigner and Labour MP Jo Cox.

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This morning it feels like a shallow victory for democracy. The British people have stuck two fingers up to Brussels, but at what cost?

None of us can answer that question yet. The reverberations could be felt for years to come…

As the world’s fifth largest economy that was a huge gamble to take. The markets have opened in turmoil (as warned), David Cameron has resigned as prime minister, (another blow to stability), and now Boris Johnson and the Leave Campaign, whose rhetoric and hyperbole has seduced many, will have to steer us through the aftermath of this shocking decision.

Here is Lord Owen’s appraisal of the Leave campaign and the NHS:

I did not vote for a little England and a far right government. The thought of Nigel Farage being at the forefront of British politics makes my blood run cold. Added to that is the prospect of the overwhelmingly ‘Remain’ Scottish voters now sticking two fingers up to the United Kingdom.

Who knows how the new prime minister and cabinet from a deeply divided conservative party will treat our much cherished NHS. Will any of the issues that the Brexit supporters voted for now improve? Forgive my lack of enthusiasm for the land of milk and honey to suddenly materialise.

I think John Oliver’s satirical assessment is on the money:

Have we shot ourselves in the foot? Time will tell. I hope and pray that we have not. Boris promised to make an apology to the nation if we went into recession. How, by any stretch of the imagination is that going to make up for lost jobs and domestic turmoil? Hubris is hubris, whether in the name of British sovereignty or not.

We do not live in age of British imperialism and Empire any longer, no matter how much Boris wants to recapture those halcyon days. Now we risk becoming international pariahs.

On the other hand, we could be seen as foresighted, inspirational and courageous. History will be the judge.

Brexit - Churchill Democracy Quote

I do not know what the future holds for my children, but I do know that now this decision (that I do not agree with) has been made, we as a nation must put our differences aside and come together to work towards a brighter future. You make the decision and then you make the decision right.

The British people are stoic as much as they are rebellious. Anger has driven us to this point, but humility, hard work, political skill, tolerance and love must lead the way into the unknown.

Brexit’s motto was ‘take back control’.  With control comes responsibility. Now is the time to roll up our sleeves and make it happen.

#MondayBlogs – Focus on Success, Monkey Business and Bananas 💡🐒🍌

“The person who suffers from inner poverty is relentlessly driven to accumulate on the material level.” ~ Dr. David R. Hawkins

In the face of mounting challenges earlier this Monday morning, I thought I’d take a few minutes to muse on what it means to be successful. Not the ‘outer’ trappings such as fame, fortune, mansions and fast cars, but to properly understand the cause that ultimately leads to the effect.

I’ve started reading a helpful book by Dr. David R Hawkins which has elucidated this subject beautifully for me. In it, he points out that most people chase the ‘out there’ stuff because they think that ‘having’ and ‘doing’ are the answer. They don’t realise that ‘being’ is the first step on the ladder of success, and without that rung any further effort will be largely futile.

Monkey Business and Bananas

The best way to explain it is to show you. Imagine a monkey locked inside a cage, with big bunches of ripe, yellow bananas just out of reach. He frantically puts his arm through the bars and struggles to reach them. He may get one or two, spurring him to keep on trying, but the really big bunches are still a few inches on from the tips of his fingers. By now his arms are getting sore. Eventually he gives up and slumps to the floor, exhausted.

This is how most of us try to become successful. We get caught up in monkey business. We see the outer ‘things’ that other people have and we think that is what we should have and so we strive for those same things.  We are struggling for the effect instead of the cause, which is an inner knowing, a way of being in the world.

monkey eating a banana

Dr. Hawkins asserts that it only takes a split second to be successful. Once we ‘get it’ the rest will follow in due course. Very often we have to pause from grabbing at the bananas and shift focus. If the monkey turned his back on the bananas to face the opposite direction, a shift of 180 degrees, he’d notice that the door of the cage wasn’t locked, that he could open it anytime and help himself to as many bananas as he could eat.

All the how-to manuals in the world won’t work unless you have that shift in perspective. The presence of joy in our work is a big indicator of whether we are knocking our brains out or not.

Success sign

Is our awareness coming from the place where the only reason to do something is so we can have something? The wrong attitude and motivation will set us up for certain failure in the long run. There has to be an intention not to just serve one’s selfish interest or exploit the public for personal gain without providing any needed service in their lives.

Very often if a person is truly successful we tend to admire them as a person. It’s not so much what they have, or what they do (even though that may be very interesting to us), but it’s more who they are that impresses us. They have a charisma, they have ‘it’ and we want that something special to rub off on us.

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If you can be happy rich, happy poor and happy whatever the situation; you can create your own magic. Don’t settle for satisfaction. Some people think that satisfaction is happiness, but they are different states of being.

There are many stories of broke people winning the lottery and after a short space of time they were in a worse position financially than they found themselves in before their so called good fortune. They hadn’t ‘got it’ before their luck changed so they weren’t ready for the responsibility that came with it.

Really what it boils down to is the difference between power and force. A person coming from the position of power, such as Gandhi, was able to harness his personal power plus the power of the Indian people, using principles of universal truth, to win against the limited force of the British Empire which was motivated by self-interest.

“The ‘aha’ experience is indicative of a jumbo level of power. When we ‘get’ something, we get it because its voltage has just increased. This is indicated intuitively by the image of the lightbulb going on over a person’s head. Light is power and energy. All of the energy on this planet, whatever its manifestation, came here via light. The power is the light.” ~ Dr. David R Hawkins

Having the bananas is the consequence, the result. It’s the ‘out there’ of success that the world sees, envies and tries to imitate. But you can’t imitate what’s ‘out there’ you can only imitate what’s ‘in here’. When we have that ‘aha’ experience of finding the open door we can amuse ourselves with manifesting it in the world. When we’ve achieved inner mastery we don’t have to prove it anymore.

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Success is grace, ease, poise and absolute precision and focus. If we’re tired and burned out at the end of the day, then it’s from the monkey business of trying to grab the bananas.

The laws of physics show that force creates counterforce, which is why we can get exhausted. No force is possible without counterforce. Nothing can press against something unless there is something to resist it.

In the world of real success there is no competition. The best restaurants are so good that people are clamouring to eat there. The most passionate singers and musicians perform to sell-out venues. Top consultants in any field are usually sought after because they manifest excellence. If we can manifest excellence in the world we won’t have to worry about money at all at some point in the future. The world will seek us out.

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The secret of power is that there is no resistance to power! Power doesn’t come from facts, positions or having anything ‘out there’. Power comes from an inner position relative to those things.

The Greek Legend of Sisyphus

The myth of Sisyphus, the King of Ephyra, who was condemned to push a heavy boulder uphill against the force of gravity, can be likened to our struggle for success. The movement of the rock is only possible if the upward force of the muscle strength exceeds the force of gravity. If it doesn’t that rock is going to come tumbling down and crush us!

Sisyphus by Titian, c. 1548-49

Sisyphus by Titian, c. 1548-49

I for one have no desire to play the Sisyphus game. Modern Sisyphus examples tend to become addicts or commit suicide.

Thought to originate with Plato or one of his students, Sisyphus is further described in Homer’s Illiad and Book XI of The Oyssey. He also features in Ovid’s story of Orpheus and Eurydice. Upon hearing Oprheus sing to Hades and Persephone he pauses from his eternal task and sits on his rock.

There are many more principles to grasp about success, but it’s good to start with the fundamental elements and spiral upwards from there.

I’m off on my travels now, so I wish you all the bananas you can eat this week!

Heart Matters: What is the Leading Cause of Death in the World?

“The greatest wealth is health.” ~ Virgil

Welcome to the second installment of my Heart Matters trilogy of posts!

And to answer the question posed in the title – cardiovascular diseases (CVDs), are the culprit when it comes to global mortality. I’ll be looking a little closer at the issues we face in battling this silent killer.

American Heart Disease-infographic

Our health is something we generally take for granted right up until the point we lose it – for whatever reason. I’ve been guilty of this myself. In my youth I was extremely fit and healthy, there was no reason to think that would ever change.

However, modern living should carry a government health warning!

It’s time to take responsibility for our health. Someone dies from a cardiovascular illness EVERY 42 SECONDS IN THE USA.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), heart disease kills more people than cancer, diabetes and prescription drugs combined.

Recent figures from UCLA indicate that more people are dying of obesity than starvation for the first time in human history.

Heart Matters - hamberger and fries

There are a myriad of reasons why this is the case, here are the main causes:

  • Hereditary factors
  • Poor diet
  • Smoking & drinking
  • Sedentary lifestyle
  • Stress
  • Pollution

If heart disease runs in your family the chances are your genes are pre-disposed towards some type of cardiovascular illness. There’s not much you can do about that.

Or is there?

That was certainly the case for my mum, who sadly lost her mother and father to heart disease. For as long as I can remember my mum has always struggled with high blood pressure. Late last year she was hospitalised as her blood pressure reached a dangerous level, 210 over 105. She was already taking two lots of medication which didn’t seem to reduce her hypertension and produced unpleasant side-effects to boot. To say I was worried was an understatement. I was petrified.

Heart and stethoscope - cardiology and medicine icons

I’m ecstatic to report that my mother now has a normal average blood pressure of 125/70, her heart palpitations have vanished and she is off all her medications. She looks and feels 10 years younger and the best part is she has achieved this all through natural means. I’ll be going into a lot more detail about how she took control of her health in the next post.

Lifestyle, stress levels and exercise are all activities that we can influence and have a choice over.  Eating too much processed foods, smoking and sitting at a desk, doing a job we don’t enjoy could be accelerating our body clock, causing premature ageing and cellular degeneration, potentially taking years off our lifespan.

Pollution

In our industrialised age it’s difficult to escape the toxins in our environment. Urban areas tend to be worse, but with car emissions and factories polluting the skies, coupled with the devastation of large tracts of rainforest (effectively weakening the lungs of the Earth) a man-made disaster is in the making.

Heart Matters - pollution

The question is not: are you toxic?

The question is: how toxic are you?

Toxicity in our soil, air, water and food can cause auto-immune problems, asthma, COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease), and lung cancer to name a few. Effects of Pollution.

In addition to all of the above, your heart, lungs and blood vessels are working extremely hard to ensure the optimum amount of oxygen and nutrients reach every cell and organ in your body. It has its work cut out, because your circulatory network (including the ultra-fine capillaries) is about 100,000 miles in length and would wrap around the world at least three and half times!

Circulatory System

Circulatory System

The human body requires a vast network of blood vessels to support every organ and cell effectively. Every invention known to man cannot compare with the complexity and regenerating power of the human body.

Wherever blood flows in your body there is a blood vessel to carry it. Age and lifestyle related problems cause plaque to form in our arteries, restricting the flow of blood, known as atherosclerosis.

Arteries - Cardiovascular-Disease

This is not easy viewing, but everyone should understand what happens during a heart attack:

Even conditions such as vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s disease are caused by plaque in the brain and a lack of oxygen to the brain due to a stroke, which in turn is caused by blood clots blocking hard, narrow plaque filled arteries in the brain.

Again and again so many health concerns can be traced to the condition of your circulatory system. Don’t even get me started on diabetes.

Heart Facts

  • Your heart is the hardest working muscle in your body
  • Your heart beats approximately 100,000 times per day, 35 million times per year
  • The muscles of your heart work twice as hard as the leg muscles of a sprinter
  • During an average lifespan the human heart will beat 2.5 billion times
  • Every 24 hours your heart pumps approximately 1800 gallons of blood
  • During the average lifetime the heart pumps about 1 million barrels of blood
  • The average adult heart is about the size of two clenched fists
  • On average women’s hearts beat slightly faster than men’s hearts
  • The heart of an embryo begins beating around four weeks after conception
  • The heart pumps blood to 75 trillion cells, except the corneas, which do receive a blood supply.
  • The heart has its own electrical impulse and can continue to beat even when separated from the body as long as it has an adequate supply of oxygen
  • Blood is actually a tissue

Some of us spend more money on putting fuel into our cars than we do fuelling our bodies with the right nutrition and lifestyle that will support it enough for us to have a long, healthy life.

As I said in my first Heart Matters post, a loving, happy heart reduces stress and is a key factor in longevity.

I’ll leave you with food for thought until I return with part 3, which I promise will be much more uplifting!

Remarkable Women: The Life and Times of Joan of Arc

“I am not afraid… I was born to do this.”  ~ Jeanne d’Arc

This will be the first in a series of posts exploring the impact on the world of remarkable women.

Joan of Arc by Albert Lynch. This painting could be the ruest likeness of her, as she had short, dark hair, cut in a round style.

Joan of Arc by Albert Lynch. This painting could be the truest likeness of her, as she had short, dark hair, cut in a round style just above her ears.

So often we celebrate men’s amazing achievements, but there have also been many women throughout history who have made remarkable contributions that have continued way beyond their life spans. They have become iconic. Their actions reflect the epitome of the virtues we aspire to today: honesty, commitment, integrity, courage and service to others.

Jeanne d’Arc (6 January 1412 – 30 May 1431)

Five hundred and eighty five years ago, on this very day, a loyal and brave maiden was burned alive at the stake in the old market square of Rouen.

Joan of Arc at the stake by Jules Eugène Lenepveu.

Joan of Arc at the stake by Jules Eugène Lenepveu.

At the age of nineteen Joan suffered a hideous, unthinkable death, which ultimately secured her place in history and cost the English their goal of the French crown.

A fitting finale with Irina Arkhipova as Joan in Tchaikovsky’s opera The Maid of Orleans:

The aftermath of Joan’s death

The young English King Henry VI’s uncle, the Duke of Bedford, who was acting as his Regent, and who had held Philip the Good to their Anglo-Burgundian contract passed away on 16th September 1435.

With his last breath, so too passed the loyalty that the Burgundian Duke had kept since he signed the Treaty of Troyes to align the Burgundians with King Henry V of England on 21st May 1420, which granted Henry’s marriage to Queen Isabeau and King Charles VI’s daughter, Catherine of Valois and ensured his heirs inherited the Crown of France, instead of Charles VI’s son, Charles VII.

His signing had been an act of hatred and revenge against the Armagnacs, who had murdered of his Father, John the Fearless of Burgundy, on the bridge at Montereau in 1419.

Joan of Arc by Harold Piffard

Joan of Arc by Harold Piffard

Diplomacy continued for a further four years after Joan’s execution, but Cardinal Niccolo Albergati, who was despatched by the Pope to broker peace at the Congress of Arras, (in the face of English opposition), absolved Philip the Good from his war promised treaty and brokered a peace settlement between the Burgundians and the Armagnacs, thus making a significant impact towards ending the Hundred Years War.

I’m convinced her martyrdom was the catalyst in the change of fortune for France, King Charles VII and his Armagnac supporters.

Joan of Arc Insulted in Prison, c. 1866 (oil on canvas) by Patrois, Isidore (1811-84) Musee des Beaux-Arts, France Giraudon French, out of copyright

Joan of Arc Insulted in Prison, c. 1866 (oil on canvas) by Patrois, Isidore 
Musee des Beaux-Arts, France

She has captured my imagination, earned my admiration and compassion, and ignited my interest in her life and into a window of history that still dominates literature, the world of art, film and popular culture today.

A moving video of her home in Domremy:

As far as I’m concerned there are no women who deserve this accolade more than Joan of Arc.

Joan of Arc by Jules Bastien-Lepage

Joan of Arc by Jules Bastien-Lepage

She was born to a humble farming family in Domremy in rural Alsace, daughter to Jacques and Isabelle, sister to Jacquemin, Jean and Pierre, during the vicious acrimony that pervaded the land in 1400’s France; an inheritance of the bitter dispute between the younger brother of the king, Louis, Duke of Orléans and his cousin, John the Fearless of Burgundy.

Louis was against John’s regency and guardianship of his brother’s children in the face of King Charles VI’s unfortunate insanity, which caused a deep schism between two royal and noble houses of France, and eventually led to his assassination by the Burgundians in November 1407 on the streets of Paris.

From then on the Armagnacs, (supporters of Charles, Duke of Orléans and the Burgundians, supporters of John’s son Philip the Good) became enemies, which had a profound effect on the course of the Hundred Years War.

Joan of Arc at Domremy

With France torn apart by divided loyalties and rapacious greed for her crown, at the age of thirteen Joan began to see visions of Saint Michael and hear voices, directing her to secure the French crown for the disinherited Dauphin, Charles.  After convincing Charles and his court that she had been sent by the King of Heaven in his cause, she led an army to rescue Orléans from English occupation.

Siege of Orléans

After six months of siege, the arrival of Joan, her captains, and their Armagnac army meant that the townsfolk finally had hope that Orléans would be freed from the grip of the English and their Captain Sir William Glasdale.

Joan of Arc riding into Orleans by Jean-Jacques Scherrer

Joan of Arc riding into Orleans by Jean-Jacques Scherrer

In just four days, suffering with a flesh injury between her shoulder and neck, and with the help of the local carpenters as their attack progressed, Joan had saved the Loire, secured freedom for the jubilant people of Orléans, and caused the ignominious, hasty retreat of Lords Suffolk, Talbot and Graves. With her her swift and decisive victory in the kingdom of Bourges it seemed that God had vindicated the legitimacy of King Charles’s cause.

Trailer to Luc Besson’s 1999 film, The Messenger: The Story of Joan of Arc

Jeanne d’Arc achieved the impossible. Of course she didn’t do it on her own, but her unshakable belief, oratory and unfaltering courage inspired others to follow and serve. She is the subject of so much literature, having already inflamed the imaginations of the likes of Mark Twain, George Bernard Shaw, Tchaikovsky and Leonard Cohen.

The birth of feminism

There were many firsts with Joan. Could she have been the very first feminist? She rebelled against the expected norms of her gender in 15th century France, where women were seen and not heard, robed and displayed for brave knights to fight for, breeding vessels that were traded in marriage among the nobility – trophies. Their choices were non-existent or very limited.

Shock, horror, Joan wore pants! Not only that, she became a soldier! Imagine being the first in a continent to go against the grain of centuries of ingrained culture, repression and strict religious dogma.

Jeanne d'Arc at the Siege of Orleans

Jeanne d’Arc at the Siege of Orleans

After Joan’s victory at Orléans, the French scholar and theologian, Jean Gerson, applied what was known as the discernment of spirits, to justify her masculine attire during the battle. He claimed that although the Old Testament prohibited it, the New Testament did not, and her circumstances as a warrior surrounded by men made it necessary to do so. Therefore, her male dressing deed ‘was done by God’.

Having read about her exploits thanks to the brilliant historian, Helen castor, and from Joan herself, (In Her Own Words), I felt so angry that the French court didn’t continue to heed her advice. Their actions left her and her men vulnerable, and led to the circumstances of her capture by the Burgundians near Compiègne.

The capture of Joan of Arc by Alexandre Dillens

The capture of Joan of Arc by Alexandre Dillens

In my continuing research I found it helpful to write a dramatic monologue poem, I wanted to put myself in her shoes. Spare a thought today for one who paid the highest price anyone could pay for their faith and love.

The Maid of Heaven:

The English and Burgundians slandered me a sinner,

Their prized prisoner: the Armagnac whore and heretic.

Many hailed me a saint, when my predictions came to pass;

Only after my death, my chastity, never lost, was restored,

Restitution was made to my virtuous reputation,

Half a century passed, before my Sainthood was bestowed.

But the truth is this; I was simply a devout servant;

I listened to, and obeyed our Holy Father,

In my mission to save the most Christian Kingdom: France.

I was known as ‘Jeanette’ in my home town, Domremy,

I span thread with my mother, herded cattle with my father.

The church bells called me to prayer. I was happy

But a country life was not my destiny.

Voices told me to ensure the dauphin was crowned at Reims

With the protective escort of Captain Robert de Baudricourt

I travelled from Vaucouleurs to the royal court at Chinon and Poitiers,

There, scholars and learned men interrogated me…

How could a peasant girl save them?

My virginity was questioned and confirmed, I am intact.

Was I really sent by God?

Could I deliver France from the grip of endless war?

I told them, I am succour for a wounded and betrayed people.

Pitiable suffering, wrought from years of starvation and violence;

Cursed by changing loyalties and treaties carving up the Kingdom,

They suffered greatly for the sake of greed and power.

The holy kingdom of France; having been lost by a woman,

When Regent Queen Isabeau signed her son, the Dauphin

Charles, out of his kingly inheritance, in treachery at Troyes,

I would save as a Virgin; pure in heart, mind and body.

In order to do God’s work, I became the warrior maid,

I was sent by my right and sovereign Lord,

To deliver my King and France from their enemies

I was the Lord’s vessel of choice to chase out the English,

To fulfil this promise I could not be myself…

I had to discard the flowing garments of my femininity,

A shocking, taboo act; forbidden to my fair sex.

Red woollen dress replaced by hose and doublet;

Glossy, lustrous black hair, levelled from shoulders to ears.

None were more determined than I,

As I rode into battle, firm on my steed,

Encased and shielded in a suit of gleaming silver.

I am neither male nor female, but a symbol of hope!

Under my command the men did not rape and pillage,

They would not utter foul, coarse words, or kill unjustly.

‘La Pucelle’ became my sobriquet.

The gentle and grateful folk of Orleans never forgot

The miraculous salvation of their city under siege.

English Lords hurled insults as well as canon,

But this trollop would not go back to herding cattle!

It did them no good. My soldiers and I drove them out.

As promised, my war-cry will be remembered forever…

I proudly held St. Catherine’s saintly sword,

Found where she directed me, rusting in her chapel at Fierbois,

My white, silken banner flapping and flying in the wind

With alacrity I undertook my difficult but divine calling,

My loyal squire, Jean d’Aulon, ever at my side, so too

My captains La Hire, Alencon, the Bastard of Orléans and Xaintrailles

The Dauphin and his nobles believed in our just and holy cause,

But after our victories at Orléans, Jargeau, Patay and Meung,

Came wintry defeat at Paris, La Charité and Compiègne;

Pulled reluctantly away from the assault of Paris, was I;

Screaming and bleeding with an arrow piercing my thigh.

Endless diplomacy and delays lost our glorious momentum

My faithful voices and counsel thus went unheeded.

I continued in my mission, until that fateful day, 23rd May 1430

Cut off from Compiegne, Jean de Luxembourg captured me,

The kindness of his Burgundian ladies could not allay my fears.

So for once I shunned and ignored my faithful voices,

I flung myself from the stone tower at Beaurevoir.

Injured and recaptured, shame burned my soul,

My bid for freedom failed.  No ransom forthcoming from my King,

Instead, for 10,000 livres I was sold to my mortal enemy.

Their hatred for me was born of fear and defeat;

I would be treated badly in a prison guarded by men.

They transported me to Rouen, Warwick’s stronghold in Normandy

My voices told me to be strong, even in frail form.

Duke Philip asserted with smug authority, that my

Capture gave the Burgundians incontrovertible proof,

That my claim to act on heaven’s behalf was indeed false;

My trial was arduous, torturous, iniquitous and full of enmity.

Stultified was I, by leering eyes and jeering mouths.

A mere maiden bearing humiliation for her kingdom,

It seemed I had been abandoned by all,

To the pious and ruthless Pierre Cauchon;

Ever zealous in his quest to declare me an apostate.

He and his cowardly politicians, relentless, asking:

Would I submit to the Holy Mother Church?

Would I renounce my sins?

I told them I would submit to the Holy Father,

Under duress and endless repetition, I told them of my mission.

Puppet of the English, Bishop of Beauvais and his judges,

Most unholy men, they said I was guided by demons,

An idolater I was branded.

Under torture they coerced my abjuration at Saint-Ouen

No more anguish could I feel, than to reject my sovereign Lord,

And all I had accomplished under his command.

No amount of false accusations, fetters, hunger, derision and

Gnarled, groping hands could further assail my spirit.

Even under threat I became the warrior maid once more,

My faith ameliorated at the close of my trial.

I remain vociferous to the task entrusted to me,

Unjust sentence justified in lengthy Latin parchments

That canon law has written to satisfy the English.

Under ecclesiastical waxy stamp my fate was sealed.

Perhaps my death was always required…

Charles has been anointed with the holy oil of Clovis

Phillip the Good, Burgundian adversary, will surely seek peace,

And the English contagion will be expelled across the water,

Whimpering; with their tails between their legs.

Their child King Henry VI, like his Most Beloved grandfather Charles,

Has no stomach for war, strife of Roses on his doorstep.

One fine day, a unified France will remember me.

They will say that Jeannne d’Arc did her duty,

A simple, brave, devout and innocent girl,

Whose courage and vision shaped the mighty realm.

The interrogation of Joan of Arc by Paul Delaroche c. 1824

The interrogation of Joan of Arc by Paul Delaroche c. 1824

I gasped my last mortal breaths on a rickety bumpy cart,

Carrying me through the narrow streets of Rouen,

Faces peering from open windows in tall, timber houses,

The spring air thick with expectation and hatred

Then mercilessly I was bound to the stake,

My pale, cold feet planted on the pyre.

Brother Pierre, holding a cross for my last prayer

The spectacle of my cruel execution

Brought tears to the hostile crowd,

They who would witness fire and flame

And see the orange dance engulf my flesh,

Consuming me with voracious hunger. In agony

I cried out: Jhesus! Jhesus!

Death has stolen my breath, liberated my soul.

They may blacken my body, but not my memory;

It is not enough that milky skin is seared and charred

Beyond recognition. They want annihilation, not relics.

They may scatter my earthly ashes over the Seine,

To be drowned in the cool blue depths,

But my legacy cannot be destroyed.

It lives and breathes in the fabric of French history,

In the hearts and minds of all those I fought for;

They could not strike my deeds from the story books.

Court clerk, Guillaume Manchon has testified to my purity

And now, what was once sullied is cleansed, nullified,

My name is again revered!

Faith, love and courage kept me company for 19 earthly years

I now abide in paradise for all eternity,

For I am the Maid of Heaven…

By Virginia Burges

Joan of Arc at the stake by Francois Chifflart

Joan of Arc at the stake by Francois Chifflart

“When we take your person into account, you who are a young maiden, to whom God gives the strength and power to be the champion who casts the rebels down and feeds France with the sweet, nourishing milk of peace, here indeed is something quite extraordinary!” ~ Christine de Pizan, (Ditié de Jehanne d’Arc)

An Introduction to the Outstanding World of Opera

“No good opera plot can be sensible, for people do not sing when they are feeling sensible.” ~ W.H. Auden

If I could sing this post I would! Except you wouldn’t thank me, I can’t sing in tune so I tend to warble alone in the car…

Opera - stage curtain

Welcome to this week’s performance! The sumptuous curtains have been pulled back so you can catch a glimpse of a wonderful and varied cast of characters, divas and arias. Opera is the most colourful realm of musical drama. When text, (libretto) and music (usually singing) combine, it can result in heart-stopping moments of exquisite human expression. 

I’ve always enjoyed classical music, even as a youngster, but it’s only been in the last decade that I’ve really come to appreciate opera more fully. I must have matured and grown into the art form.

My mum took me to see Puccini’s romantic tragedy, ‘La Boheme’ at the Royal Opera House when I was about eighteen; we sat up in the stalls, almost in the roof if I recall. I don’t remember who the singers were – but I do remember their passion.

The old Burgtheater by Klimt c. 1889

The old Burgtheater by Klimt c. 1889

I loved the drama, the costumes, the live singing and music, but still it wasn’t until a good few years later I went to see Madame Butterfly, again at the Royal Opera House. We had better seats this time. Kleenex tissues were very much in demand during that performance!

Stephen Fry and comedian Alan Davies undertook an ‘operatic’ experiment in conjunction with the Royal Opera House, to monitor their cardiovascular output and physical markers during a performance of Simon Boccanegra, with a view of measuring their emotional responses throughout the performance. It was undoubtedly impactful on both of them, even Alan, who was not an opera fan. The Science of Opera:

Origins

The first known surviving opera was written in 1600 to celebrate the wedding of Marie de’ Medici and Henri IV of France, and was composed by the duo ‘il Romano’, Giulio Caccini (1551-1618) and Jacopo Peri (1561 – 1633).

L’Euridice is more of a drama set to music with some divine choral sections; the first attempt to combine text by Ottavio Rinuccini with vocal music. This type of early performance; a fusion of music with solo vocals and choral ensembles to combine both literary and visual arts evolved over 400 years, into the opera we are familiar with today.

A period performance of the entire work with Nicolas Achten and Céline Vieslet:

Orfeo ed Euridice

Over a century later composer Christoph Willibald Gluck would become inspired by the ancient Greek mythical tale of Orpheus, son of Apollo; legendary musician, poet and prophet (bard for that matter). His music dramatises Orfeo’s journey to Hades to appease the furies with his music in order to bring his new bride, Eurydice back to life, in his 1762 opera, Orfeo ed Euridice.

Orpheus leading Eurydice from the underworld by Jean-Baptsite Camille Corot

Orpheus leading Eurydice from the underworld by Jean-Baptsite Camille Corot

It was a box-office hit in Vienna when it premiered at the Burgtheater on 5th October, and was then revised and expanded further by Gluck for its French premiere at the Paris Opéra on 2 August 1774 as Orphée et Eurydice.

A superb clip of American tenor Richard Croft singing ‘J’ai perdu mon Eurydice’ by Gluck:

Offenbach wrote his operetta, ‘Orpheus in the Underworld’ in 1858 as a satirical send-up of Gluck’s earlier opera. The ‘Infernal Galop’ from Act 2, Scene 2, is infamously referred to as the ‘can-can’. Saint-Saëns took poetic license with the Galop, by slowing it to a crawl, and arranging it for the strings to represent the tortoise in The Carnival of the Animals.

I really have the urge to don stockings and kick my legs right now!

Baroque Opera

The great Baroque opera composers were Händel, Purcell, Monteverdi and Vivaldi, who I think must have written as many operas as I’ve had hot dinners!

Monteverdi’s music marked the crossover from the late Renaissance to early Baroque, and he also wrote an opera about, yes, you guessed it, Orpheus! ‘L’orfeo’ was written and first performed in Mantua in 1607.

Orfeo by Cesare Gennari

Orfeo by Cesare Gennari

In fact, I was flabbergasted to learn that a total of 71 Orphean operas (not all completed) have been written between 1600 and 2015.

Cecilia Bartoli as Euridice in Haydn’s L’anima del filosofo ossia Orfeo ed Euridice, ‘Al tuo seno fortunato’:

Georg Friedrich Händel composed 42 operatic works of varying genres that were written between 1705 and 1741. He achieved great success with his operas after he settled in England. Many of his works were premiered at the opera house in the Haymarket, initially the Queen’s Theatre which then became known as the King’s Theatre.

One of my favourite Händel arias is ‘Lascia ch’io pianga’ (let me weep) from his first opera, Rinaldo, published in 1711.  Arleen Auger has the purest, sweetest voice in this remarkable recording:

Barbara Bonney ‘Thy hand, Belinda…When I am Laid in Earth’ by Henry Purcell:

Mozart

His partnership with Venetian librettist, Lorenzo Da Ponte created some of the most memorable operas ever written. From the tale of the philandering rake, Don Giovanni, to the complicated marriage of Figaro, to the outlandish Magic Flute with a psychotic Queen of the Night, as well as others such as Idomeneo, Cosi fan tutte, La Clemenza di Tito, Mitridate, Lucio Scilla and Zaide to name but a few.

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Diana Damrau isn’t taking any prisoners in her stunning rendition of the ‘Queen of the Night’ aria:

A really beautiful clip of Cecilia Bartoli and Jean-Yves Thibaudet performing ‘Voi che sapete’ (with translation) from the Marriage of Figaro:

Beethoven

Dear Ludwig only wrote one opera in his lifetime, about a dutiful wife, Leonore, the early title of the work that would become known as ‘Fidelio’. It contains his hallmark themes of heroism and courage at its core. Leonore disguises herself as a prison guard in an attempt to rescue her husband, Florestan, from death.

Marilyn Horne – Abscheulicher! Wo eilst du hin?

Bizet

His iconic opera, Carmen, based on the eponymous novella by Prosper Mérimée, about a feisty and fickle young gypsy woman who captures the heart of a soldier, Don Jose, is one of my favourites. It broke with convention at the time of its premiere in March 1875, and was received with indifference. However it has become hugely in popular over the years.

Carmen lithograph by Pierre August Lamy c. 1875

Carmen lithograph by Pierre August Lamy c. 1875

The story follows Don Jose’s total immersion into infatuation, obsessive desire, love and jealousy against the back drop of a parched, proletarian Seville. The music portrays his eventual downfall as he becomes a deserter and vagabond, consumed with malicious intent towards Carmen –  the woman who has spurned him. If he can’t have her, then neither can his rival for her affections, toreador Escamillo…

It has many wonderful, memorable arias and evocative orchestral music that capture its passionate and tragic themes: the key ingredients of unforgettable opera.

Les tringles des sistres tintaient (Chanson Boheme) – Angela Gheorghiu:

Jonas Kaufmann as Don José with a poignant performance of the Flower Song ‘La fleur que tu m’avais jetée’:

I love this seductive, slinky performance of “L”amour est un oiseau rebelle” by Elina Garanca in the Metropolitan Opera staging of 2010:

A steamy scene ‘Près des remparts de Séville’ from the film of Carmen made in 1984, with Julia Migenes and Plácido Domingo:

Bizet’s Carmen has also provided inspiration for ballets and instrumental music.

The Italians are in the house!

Somehow the dramatic nature of opera suits the Italian psyche, after all, it originated there, and none were more successful in this genre than Guiseppe Verdi. He composed famous operas such as the romantic tragedy La Traviata, the epic Aida, Rigoletto, Nabucco, Otello, Il Trovotore, Macbeth, Falstaff, La Forza del Destino, Simon Boccanegra and many others.

Verdi blows my socks off with this colossal classic from Nabucco. Chorus of the Hebrew Slaves:

The drinking song from La Traviata with Rolando Villazon and Anna Netrbko:

Hot on his heels is Giacomo Puccini, a true romantic at heart. Among his best-loved operas are, Tosca, La Boheme, Turandot, Madame Butterfly, Manon Lescault and Gianni Schicchi.

Anna Netrebko and Rolando Villazon are superb in this romantic duet from La Boheme ‘O soave fanciulla’:

We musn’t forget Gioachino Rossini, who penned some very memorable tunes, including The Barber of Seville, La Cenerentola, William Tell, La Gazza Ladra and Otello.

The Barber of Seville

The Barber of Seville

During his meeting in Vienna with Beethoven in 1822 at the age of thirty, when Beethoven was fifty one, profoundly deaf, curmudgeonly and losing his health, he still managed to note in his conversation book:

“Ah, Rossini. So you’re the composer of The Barber of Seville. I congratulate you. It will be played as long as Italian opera exists. Never try to write anything else but opera buffa; any other style would do violence to your nature.”

Other Italian opera composers of note were Bellini, Donizetti and Mascagni. One of my favourite arias is Casta Diva by Bellini (Chaste goddess…turn upon us thy fair face, unclouded and unveiled). A fabulous live vintage recording of Maria Callas packed with pathos:

Italy produced the finest tenor in opera history with Luciano Pavarotti. That man was born to sing! For me, no one can top his powerful, emotive and distinctive voice.

E lucevan le stelle (Tosca):

Here he is singing the immortal ‘Nessun Dorma’ from Turandot as an encore:

Tchaikovsky

We perhaps think of his wonderful, warm, lush violin concerto, his romantic symphonies and his immortal ballet music, but this Russian heavyweight wrote a grand total of eleven operas, his most popular being Eugene Onegin.

Wagner

Probably the closest rival to Verdi for the King of opera crown, Richard Wagner’s operas were usually epic in subject matter, long, very long, with romantic music, involving lovers, mythical characters, gods and large ladies.  And did I mention long?! Brünnhilde is an icon in her own right. So much so, she was even featured in a cartoon!

A beautiful recording with Anne Evans in Brünnhilde’s Immolation from Götterdämmerung:

When it comes to Wagner I can only listen in small doses. I’ve often joked that the ears can only enjoy for as long as the derriere can endure!

Wagner’s 13 impressive operas: Die Feen, Das Liebesverbot, Rienzi, Der Fliegende Hollander, Tannhäuser, Lohengrin, The Ring of the Nibelung (Das Rheingold, Die Walkure, Siegfried and Gotterdammerung), Tristan und Isolde, Die Meistersinger and Parsifal.

This made the hairs on my arms stand up! Ponte Singers – Pilgrim’s Chorus from Tannhäuser:

It doesn’t get more beautiful than this! Georg Solti and the Chicago Symphony Orchestra give a masterclass in building sublime, unresolved tension to an eventual, satisfying crescendo in this performance of Tristan und Isolde – Prelude and Liebestod:

For opera aficionados! Verdi vs Wagner – the 200th birthday debate with Stephen Fry:

I hope I have manged to give you a well-rounded introduction to opera if you’re not already a bit of an enthusiast, in which case you probably know more than me!

Of course there are those who poke fun at opera, even muscians! But we’ll let the irreverent Victor Borge off the hook; after all he was incredibly funny. A night at the opera like no other!

I’ll probably re-visit opera again one day, there’s far too much to cover in one post, and I know you’ve all got things to do and places to be.

For my swan song I’ll leave you with a poignant, sensual aria from Samson et Dalila by Saint-Saens –  ‘Mon coeur s’ouvre a ta voix’ sung by the queen of sopranos, Maria Callas:

“Opera is where a guy gets stabbed in the back, and instead of dying, he sings.” ~ Robert Burns

#SundayBlogShare 🎼🎻🎹🎸🎷🎧 Music: An Unsurpassed Social Gift

“All art aspires towards the condition of music.” ~ Walter Pater

Playing a musical instrument is the best workout I know for my brain, as well as for invigorating my whole body. Meditation follows a close second alongside some other pleasurable activities…

The Music Lesson by Manet c. 1868

The Music Lesson by Manet c. 1868

During a practice session I feel totally alive; my mind seems to be at its most creative, and yet clear of life’s ‘junk’. I can be myself when I’m playing my violin; happily ensconced in a ‘flow state’ with no judgment or expectation other than to enjoy my activity.

I may not be on stage in a world-class concert hall, (only in my imagination), in reality I’m in my lounge and completely engaged in a joyful fusion of physical and mental exercise.

The thought of not being able to play inspired the premise for my novel, The Virtuoso.

Music score to accompany The Virtuoso by Tim Johnson

Music score to accompany The Virtuoso by Tim Johnson

While I’m playing Bach, Beethoven, Mozart and Vivaldi my brain is doing the ultimate multi-tasking, coordinating on an epic scale:

It’s enabling me to read the notes, to perform challenging passages of semi-quaver notes, to react quickly with tricky  incidental notes, trills and possible key changes during the piece, let alone changing position on the fingerboard, deciding what digit goes where, what bowing technique is required, the dynamics of the music and, of course intonation and my unique interpretation based on how the music makes me feel as I play it.

Jeanne Saint Cheron - violinist

Violinist by Jeanne Saint Cheron

Imagine coordinating that many processes in a split second. Brain plasticity is an incredible process. It must be an orchestra of simultaneous sparks, a symphony of synapses in there, lighting up all over the place!

Science has backed me up on that one. How playing an instrument benefits your brain – Anita Collins:

Afterwards I find myself in a special space, my mind is empty yet energised and I just write. Ideas flow. It doesn’t last forever, but I try to make the most of it! Those alpha brain waves are the good guys, they usher in our most creative moments when we’re in a state of relaxed concentration.

The Music Lesson by Caspar Netscher

The Music Lesson by Caspar Netscher

Music really is instrumental in improving brain function and cognitive ability.

You may relate to my joy if you play an instrument. I don’t mean to be unnecessarily sombre, but if music disappeared overnight, for whatever reason, what would become of our species? I don’t think I could live in a world devoid of such a rich, cultural heritage…

A fascinating talk from the late neurologist Oliver Sacks – Musicophilia: Tales of Music and the Brain:

This short video shows Dr. Sacks’s brain activity as he listens to music by Bach, his favourite composer compared with that of Beethoven:

A great excerpt from a talk about the history of music by Dr. Daniel Levitin, who argues against Steven Pinker, asserting that music preceded language:

I wanted to share with you my own verses; poetry which most certainly does not compare to the likes of Keats or Shelley, but which is nonetheless genuinely reflective of my love for music; both playing and listening.

Music Makes Me Feel…

First came the hypnotic rhythm of Beethoven,

Moonlight tones passing through my mother’s womb;

Loving piano gently infiltrates fleshy oven,

Beautiful harmony surrounds the warm, watery tomb

My whole being is receptive, active, listening,

Later in life, it will make my spirit sing.

Woman at the Piano by Pierre Auguste Renoir

Woman at the Piano by Pierre Auguste Renoir

Orchestras fill our home, my education starts,

Lessons begin on the violin; fun but hard,

Before long I am hooked, for joy it imparts,

Bowing, scraping, hand stretching on fingerboard,

The right note eludes me, again and again,

Eventually, fingers know their place more than pain.

Berthe Morisot - The artist's daughterplaying the violin

Berthe Morisot – The artist’s daughter playing the violin

Pulsing air waves elicit ecstasy, and poignant lingering,

Oscillations match to memories from the deep,

Such moving melody, well-spring of suffering,

Black notes on treble or bass clef; ready to leap

From musicians instruments, creating composer’s passions

Hypnotism says Ludwig van, to force same emotions.

The Kreutzer Sonata by Xavier Prinet

The Kreutzer Sonata by Xavier Prinet

Major or minor key, varying dynamics and tempo

Music mirrors every sacred moment of life,

Soft, soothing adagio or a galloping allegro,

Good vibrations comfort me when in strife;

Open your heart to its flowing, healing tune,

And fill your soul with rapture, thrilling croon.

Music - Ancient Greek vase - music lesson

Ancient, divine sounds, evolving over millennia,

Effect is more visceral than art, sculpture, literature.

No mode of communication stirs like an aria;

Universal language communes with our nature,

Eclectic music of mankind, such profound apotheosis,

Ultimate expression of humanity: Quo Vadis?

The Music Lesson by Jan Vermeer

The Music Lesson by Jan Vermeer

Apart from the sound of my mother’s voice, this timeless and peaceful composition by Beethoven that my mum used to play was probably one of the first things I ever heard:

Sound when stretched is music.

Movement when stretched is dance.

Mind when stretched is meditation.

Life when stretched is celebration. ~ Sri Sri Ravishankar

How to be More Motivated and Successful After Rejection

“Rejections slips, or form letters, however tactfully phrased, are lacerations of the soul, if not quite inventions of the devil – but there is no way around them.” ~ Isaac Asimov

You may ask, what can an author who’s sold more than 450 million books, as well as providing the content and inspiration for the behemoth that is the blockbuster series of Harry Potter movies, teach me about being rejected?

I would venture to say quite a bit actually. JK Rowling certainly inspired me to keep going, albeit not down the same path, but you’d imagine because of her stellar success she wouldn’t know anything about rejection – but you’d be wrong.

Rowling was rejected numerous times when she began approaching literary agents with Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone. I’ll bet they’re kicking themselves now.

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The Christopher Little Literary Agency agreed to represent her, a decision which has more than paid off! The rest, as they say, is history.

Rejections under the pseudonym Robert Galbraith

Many of us are aware that JK Rowling didn’t have immediate success when she approached agents and publishers with her first Harry Potter adventure.

Despite those rejections, the best-selling author of the Harry Potter fantasy series and her first adult novel, The Casual vacancy, decided to go incognito for her first foray into crime fiction.

I recently read a newspaper article that highlighted her rejections when she was looking to become published as crime thriller author, Robert Galbraith. When she sent off The Cuckoo’s Calling she came up against the same response as before, and probably some of what you and I have also experienced.

At the request of a fan, only for inspiration purposes and not revenge, JK Rowling revealed some of the responses she received as Robert Galbraith. Here is the reply from publisher Constable and Robinson:

Dear Robert Galbraith,

Thank you very much for giving us the opportunity to consider your novel, which we have looked at with interest. However, I regret that we have reluctantly come to the conclusion that we could not publish it with commercial success.

At the risk of ‘teaching my grandmother to suck eggs’, may I respectfully suggest the following: Double check in a helpful bookshop, on Amazon or in the twice yearly ‘Buyer’s Guide’ of the Bookseller magazine…who are the publishers now of your fiction category/genre. Call the publishers to obtain the name of the relevant editor…then send to each editor an alluring 200-word blurb (as on book jackets; don’t give away the ending!)…

Owing to pressure of submissions, I regret we cannot reply individually or provide constructive criticism. (A writers’ group/writing course may help with the latter.) May I wish you every success in placing your work elsewhere.

So why would an author who is reportedly worth £580 million put herself through that kind of torment? Rowling states: ‘I had nothing to lose and sometimes that makes you brave enough to try.’

It’s thought that twelve publishers turned down Harry Potter in 1996 until Bloomsbury took it on. Rowling pointed out that the same publisher who first rejected Harry Potter had sent the ‘rudest’ response to The Cuckoo’s Calling.

Eventually it was published by Sphere, the same publisher who accepted The Casual Vacancy in 2012. It was released in April 2013 and sold around 450 copies in Britain and a further 1,000 worldwide before the author’s true identity was made public.

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Rowling has penned two further novels under the Galbraith pen name: The Silkworm and Career of Evil. So even one of the most successful authors of all-time continues to be rejected!

“You have to know how to accept rejection and reject acceptance.” ~ Ray Bradbury

Most authors have suffered many rejections. Rejection is part of a writer’s life; it’s how you deal with it that matters.

Rejection - HG Wells

So if you’ve been rejected you’re in great company!

Having been told by an editor that he couldn’t write about women, Stephen King set about penning his grisly epistolary tale of a lonely teenager, Carrie, a vilified misfit with telekinetic powers. King actually rejected himself by binning his first few pages of Carrie, (his fourth novel but first to be published), but his wife Tabitha rescued the pages from his waste paper bin!

Margaret Mitchell had Gone with the Wind rejected 38 times before it was published and went on to win the Pulitzer Prize for Fiction in 1937. The movie of ‘Gone with the Wind’ became the most successful film ever made up to that point, and remained the highest earning film for a further 25 years after it was released in December 1939. It won 10 Academy Awards, including Best Picture, Best Director, Best Adapted Screenplay, Best Actress, and Best Supporting Actress.

It’s still the most successful film in box-office history after monetary inflation has been taken into consideration.

Other celebrated and successful authors that were rejected include: Mark Twain, DH Lawrence, Herman Melville, Ernest Hemingway, Dan Brown, Beatrix Potter, Agatha Christie, James Redfield, William Golding, George Orwell, John le Carré and Rudyard Kipling to name but a few.

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Although it’s unpleasant, it seems par for the course that at some point you’ll be rejected, either as a writer, or in any other endeavour you undertake.  If you have the right attitude about it, rejection can inject you with the essential determination and strength of character needed to succeed, as well as helping to hone your skills where appropriate.

“Remember: when people tell you something’s wrong or doesn’t work for them, they are almost always right. When they tell you exactly what they think is wrong and how to fix it, they are almost always wrong.”  ~ Neil Gaiman

When I was ready to put my debut novel, The Virtuoso out there, it was a nerve wracking time. I was a first time author, my confidence was growing but I felt vulnerable and self-conscious. I didn’t know if I had it in me to become a published author or if people would enjoy my book.

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These fears have been banished since publication and the growing body of healthy reviews.

Needless to say I had many ‘thanks, but no thanks’ type of replies to my submissions, and some didn’t even bother to respond. After a few months of this soul destroying process I decided to self-publish. Independent authors comprise a significant share of the publishing industry. In this 2015 article, The Bookseller attempts to highlight the size of the self-publishing sector within the industry.

John Lock was the first author to sell over a million ebooks on Amazon. It can be done. There are many avenues an author can pursue, which I’m not going to go into here.

Rejection - JD Rockerfeller

Once I took my future into my own hands I felt better about myself. I was no longer at the mercy of literary agents; I could determine my own path.

The key point is to take positive action and don’t stop believing in yourself. Reading is highly subjective, and as Stephen King rightly pointed out, you can’t please all of the readers all of the time, you can’t even please some of the readers all of the time, but you really ought to try to please at least some of the readers some of the time.

If you can do that, you’re up there with the best of them.

I spent years working on my manuscript alongside working and raising a large family, I wasn’t about to ditch my dream because an agent or publisher didn’t feel my work was quite right for them at the time.

In fact, some of my rejection responses spurred me on. I’ll share a couple with you but I won’t say which agents they came from:

Thank you for bearing with me while I took a read of this. The Virtuoso is a window into a fascinating world, and you obviously know your subject very well. I’m afraid I don’t think it’s one for my list – I have to be very selective about what I take on, and to me the focus on relationships and dialogue just felt a little far towards the commercial end of the market for my tastes. Do keep trying it with agents – perhaps have a look in the acknowledgements sections of books that you think are for a similar readership, and see who represents them?

Very best of luck with it.

Dear Ginny,

Thank you for sending me THE VIRTUOSO and for giving me the opportunity to consider your work.

Unfortunately I am not able to offer you representation for your work. Although I thought the premise of the story was engaging, I’m afraid I did not fall in love with the writing, itself, the way I would need to in order to take it on in today’s tough non-fiction marketplace. I am sorry for this response but I feel that an agent must be wholeheartedly and unreservedly behind a book if she hopes to sell it to publishers. These judgements are always subjective and you may well find someone who feels very differently.

Thank you for giving me the chance to consider your work and I wish you luck in your search for a suitable agent to assist you.

Dear Ginny,

Many thanks for sending us this proposal, which I read with interest. I considered it carefully but I’m afraid on balance it just doesn’t quite grab my imagination in the way that it must for me to offer to represent you. So I must follow my instinct and pass on this occasion. I’m really sorry to be so disappointing, but thanks for thinking of us. Of course this is a totally subjective judgement, so do try other agents and I wish you every success.

Dear Ginny,

Thank you for sending in your material to us. We have read and considered your proposal carefully but do not feel it is something we could place successfully in the current publishing climate. Please bear in mind that this is the opinion of one agency alone and that others may feel differently.

We are extremely sorry to disappoint you but we wish you the very best of luck with your future writing.

Dear Virginia

Thank you for sending me your submission. I found your writing engaging, as you do write with real energy and imagination.

Having said that, I am afraid it wasn’t really something that I am currently looking for but I do wish you every success with your submission.

You may be reading this and thinking, ‘But I’m not an author so this isn’t relevant to me.’ However you can still apply the principles of not giving up, determination, re-evaluation and persistence to whatever project you’re working on.

Here’s a great motivational video by Prince Ea if you need help in that department!

We can all take a leaf out of Scarlett O’Hara’s book – after all, tomorrow is another day!

“I discovered that rejections are not altogether a bad thing. They teach a writer to rely on his own judgment and to say in his heart of hearts, ‘To hell with you.’“ ~ Saul Bellow